Monday, January 31, 2011

Forgive me Allah

Forgive me Allah
For the wrongs I have done
For anger I shouldn’t have
...Against anyone

I know I’m weak Allah
But I love You, I really do
And in spite of my weakness
I know You love me too

Forgive me for not reading
Forgive us for not practising
Forgive us for not implementing Your eternal Words
While society at large suffer
From the ommission of our submission

Oh Allah let us come to the understanding
Only with Your Deen can humanity Prevail
And me for the times that I stray
Forgive me for being too tired
When I don’t take the time to pray
While my Ummah lay in shame
With ignorance i forget your way

Give me the strength, Oh Allah!
To do what I should each day
Let Your love shine through me
So others will follow Your way

Even though I’ve failed You Allah
I know You’ll forgive me
And this I promise Lord
A better Muslim I will be

For Your presence is in me
Filling my heart with Your love
And I have Your reassurance
You’re guiding us from above

I love You Allah, and thank You
For the limitless blessings You bestow
I must tell others about You
So Your goodness they too, will know
Forgive me Ya Allah
Forgive and Guide this Ummah.
Victory is Promised by You
Make us worthy of it Ya Allah.


Remember us and the entire muslim ummah in your duas,

Jazak Allah Khair,


Very touching Mother Facts!


 When you came into the world, she held you in her arms.
 You thanked her by wailing like a banshee.

 When you were 1 year old, she fed you and bathed you.
 You thanked her by crying all night long.

 When you were 2 years old, she taught you to walk.
 You thanked her by running away when she called.

 When you were 3 years old, she made all your meals with love.
 You thanked her by tossing your plate on the floor.

 When you were 4 years old, she gave you some crayons.
 You thanked her by coloring the dining room table.

 When you were 5 years old, she dressed you for the holidays.
 You thanked her by plopping into the nearest pile of mud.

 When you were 6 years old, she walked you to school.
 You thanked her by screaming, "I'M NOT GOING!"

 When you were 7 years old, she bought you a baseball.
 You thanked her by throwing it through the
 next-door-neighbor's window.

 When you were 8 years old, she handed you an ice cream.
 You thanked her by dripping it all over your lap.

 When you were 9 years old, she paid for piano lessons.
 You thanked her by never even bothering to practice.

 When you were 10 years old, she drove you all day, from
 soccer to gymnastics to one birthday party after another.
 You thanked her by jumping out of the car and never looking back.

 When you were 11 years old, she took you and your friends to the movies.
 You thanked her by asking to sit in a different row.

 When you were 12 years old, she warned you not to watch certain TV shows.
 You thanked her by waiting until she left the house.

 Those teenage years
 When you were 13, she suggested a haircut that was becoming.
 You thanked her by telling her she had no taste.

 When you were 14, she paid for a month away at summer camp.
 You thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter.

 When you were 15, she came home from work, looking for a hug.
 You thanked her by having your bedroom door locked.

 When you were 16, she taught you how to driver her car.
 You thanked her by taking it every chance you could.

 When you were 17, she was expecting an important call.
 You thanked her by being on the phone all night.

 When you were 18, she cried at your high school graduation.
 You thanked her by staying out partying until dawn.
 Growing old and gray

 When you were 19, she paid for your college tuition,
 drove you to campus, carried your bags.
 You thanked her by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldn't
 be embarrassed in front of your friends.

 When you were 20, she asked whether you were seeing anyone.
 You thanked her by saying, "It's none of your business."

 When you were 21, she suggested certain careers for your future.
 You thanked her by saying, "I don't want to be like you."

 When you were 22, she hugged you at your college graduation.
 You thanked her by asking whether she could pay for a trip to Europe.

 When you were 23, she gave you furniture for your first apartment.
 You thanked her by telling your friends it was ugly.

 When you were 24, she met your fiance and asked about your plans for the future.
 You thanked her by glaring and growling, "Muuhh-ther, please!"

 When you were 25, she helped to pay for your wedding, and she cried and told
 you how deeply she loved you.
 You thanked her by moving halfway across the country.

 When you were 30, she called with some advice on the baby.
 You thanked her by telling her, "Things are different now."

 When you were 40, she called to remind you of an relative's birthday.
 You thanked her by saying you were "really busy right now."

 When you were 50, she fell ill and needed you to take care of her.
 You thanked her by reading about the burden parents become to their children.


 And then, one day, she quietly died. And everything you never did came
 crashing down like thunder.

 "Rock me baby, rock me all night long."
 "The hand who rocks the cradle...may rock the world".

 Let us take a moment of the time just to pay tribute/show appreciation to
 the person called MOM though some may not say it openly to their mother.

 There's no substitute for her. Cherished every single moment.
 Though at times she may not be the best of friends, may not agree to our
 thoughts, she is still your mother!!!

 She will be there for you...to listen to your woes, your braggings, your
 frustations, etc.

 Ask yourself.....have you put aside enough time for her, to listen to her
 "blues" of working in the kitchen, her tiredness???

 Be tactful, loving and still show her due respect though you may have a
 different view from hers.
 Once gone, only fond memories of the past and also regrets will be left.


 **DON'T TAKE FOR GRANTED THE THINGS CLOSEST TO YOUR HEART. CLING TO THEM AS
 U WOULD YOUR LIFE, FOR WITHOUT THEM, LIFE IS MEANINGLESS* 



THREE WAYS TO GET YOUR KIDS ACTIVE By Sarah Henry


1. Get going in the great outdoors

Once your child starts all-day kindergarten, you're left with a narrow window of time during the day — between 8 a.m and 6 p.m. — when you or his after-care provider can encourage your kindergartner to exercise. And at this age TV, videos, and computer games can compete for his attention. One of the best ways to make sure that your 5-year-old gets all the exercise he needs is to head outside, says David Bernhardt, a sports medicine pediatrician at the University of Wisconsin in Madison. Kids run, climb, hop, skip, and jump much more in the great outdoors than they do when stuck inside (where there are lots of admonitions to quit jumping on the couch). And kids this age are even more likely to do those things if they have a friend along, since activities with peers become increasingly important now. So scout out some safe outdoor play places for your child, bring along a buddy or two plus bats, balls, and bikes (don't forget the helmets), and keep an eye on them as they race around together. If your child is in an after-care program, make sure exercise is a regular part of the schedule.
2. Set a good example

You probably already know that what you say has an impact on how your 5-year-old talks, and that what you eat affects his diet. Same goes for exercise: Your child's future fitness and activity level are influenced by how you spend your spare time, says Bernhardt. So when you can, walk to school, the shops, the library, or a friend's house rather than piling into the car. At home, take the time to do yoga stretches or follow along to a workout video — and encourage him to join in. If he sees you keeping fit, he'll be more likely to develop this healthy habit too.

3. Exercise together

Build in some time each day to exercise together — just as you try to have a family meal and keep a bedtime ritual. Even venturing out after dinner for a walk to search for stars or chase fireflies counts. What's most important is that you come up with a flexible routine that works for your family. On the weekends, make sure some family outings are active ones (for instance, swimming at the local pool, sledding in the park, or riding on a bike trail) instead of sedentary ones, such as taking a drive. Head to the beach to comb for hidden treasures, or hike a nearby nature trail and keep an eye out for curious creatures. Any activities that also promote free play — such as tag, kick ball, or Marco Polo at the pool — are excellent ways to weave in exercise.


Friday, January 28, 2011

9 SEBAB-SEBAB HATI TIDAK BAHAGIA


Antara mazmummah utama yang menghilangkan bahagia di hati ialah :
1. Pemarah paling mudah dikesan atau dilihat dan paling banyak di dalam diri manusia. Orang seperti ini jarang mendapat kawan dan hati tentunya tidak tenang.
2. Pendendam tersembunyi iaitu ibarat mengumpul lahar di dalam dada. Orang seperti ini sentiasa mencari-cari peluang untuk membalas dendam hatta secara yang kecil-kecil sekalipun seperti sakitkan hati atau tempelak orang yang didendami itu. Sebab itu orang pendendam mudah kena sakit jantung.
3. Hasad dengki - amalanya hangus akibat hasad dengkinya itu kerana ia memiliki sifat ketuhanan.
4. Bakhil - sentiasa merasakan orang lain menginginkan harta, kesenangan, pangkat dll. dari dirinya. Contohnya sentiasa berdalih mengatakan ia tiada duit. (rezeki yang diberi oleh Allah elok dikongsi bersama..-derma) Allah lebih sayang orang yang fasiq tetapi pemurah tetapi benci orang yang abid tetapi bakhil. Kerana walaupun fasiq, pemurahnya itu tetap memberi manfaat pada orang lain kerana kadangkala rezeki itu Allah beri melalui maknusia
5. Tamak orang yang tidak puas dengan yang sedikit nescaya tidak akan puas dengan yang banyak kerana dunia ini ibarat meminum air laut....walau berapa banyak yg diminum tetap tak abis jugak...lagipun org tamak selalu rugi.. ** Ingat ! yang dikatakan harta atau rezeki kita bila ia dipakai atau digunakan oleh kita. Selagi tidak diguna iaitu disimpan, itu belum boleh dikatakan rezeki kita. (mungkin ada hak orang lain di situ) Biarlah rezeki itu sedikit tetapi mendapat keberkatan iaitu dapat dimanfaatkan.
6. Tidak sabar andainya perkara yang kecil pun tidak boleh bersabar apatah lagi hal-hal yang lebih besar. (oleh itu banyak2kanlah bersabar bila hadapi dugaan..cthnyer time keja banyak..tetap maintain vogue walau keja bertimbun atas meja..heh..heh..)
7. Ego - ibu segala mazmummah jadi ia membuatkan seseorang paling tidak tenang. Orang yang memiliki sifat ini pantang tercabar dari sudut zahir mahupun batin.
8. Riak terseksa sendiri kerana sentiasa tercari-cari peluang untuk dipuji. Sentiasa berlakun-lakun di depan orang. Jika ia dipuji, ia akan menambah amalnya tetapi jika dikeji, ia akan mengurangkan amalnya. -Allah marah kalau kita riak..takabbur dgn aper yg kita ada..
9. Cinta dunia - tidak dapat menderita, ....dapat pun menderita kerana bila sudah dapat susah pula menjaganya. Berhartalah tidak mengapa tetapi kawal hati jangan diletakkan pada harta itu. biler mati cuma bawa amalan dan doa anak yg soleh/solehah... Cinta dunia merupakan "neraka dunia" kerana dunia itu "panas" akibat ia merupakan barang buruan dan rebutan. Jadi letakkanlah akhirat itu di hati dan dunia itu di tangan supaya dunia itu senang dibahagi-bahagi dan akhirat dibawa mati.
Kesimpulan
Jadi yang meragut kebahagiaan sebenarnya bukanlah secara TOTALnya disebabkan kemiskinan, musibah, kesibukan dllnya. tetapi ialah MAZMUMMAH.
Makin tinggi mazmummah seseorang, makin ia tidak BAHAGIA. Samada bermujahadah atau biarkan saja mazmummah itu, kedua-duanya tetap menderita tetapi andainya bermujahadah kita akan dibantu Allah dan akan bahagia jua akhirnya. So..sama-samalah kite sentiasa ingat mengingati antara satu sama lain...andai kita terleka dengan dunia buruklahh padahnya.
"Wallahualam"


 

TEN WAYS TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S SELF ESTEEM By Sarah Henry


Nurturing your kindergartner's self-esteem may seem like a hefty responsibility. After all, a feeling of self-worth lays the foundation for your kindergartner's future as she sets out to try new things on her own. "Self-esteem comes from having a sense of belonging, believing that we're capable, and knowing our contributions are valued and worthwhile," says California family therapist Jane Nelsen, co-author of the Positive Discipline series.
"As any parent knows, self-esteem is a fleeting experience," says Nelsen. "Sometimes we feel good about ourselves and sometimes we don't. What we are really trying to teach our kids are life skills like resiliency." Your goal as a parent is to ensure that your child develops pride and self-respect — in herself and in her cultural roots — as well as faith in her ability to handle life's challenges (for a 5-year-old that may mean standing on one foot for several seconds). Here are ten simple strategies to help you help boost your child's self-esteem:

1.  Give unconditional love.
A child's self-esteem flourishes with the kind of no-strings-attached devotion that says, "I love you, no matter who you are or what you do." Your child benefits the most when you accept her for who she is regardless of her strengths, difficulties, temperament, or abilities. So lavish her with love. Give her plenty of cuddles, kisses, and pats on the shoulder. And don't forget to tell her how much you love her. When you do have to correct your child, make it clear that it's her behavior — not her — that's unacceptable. Instead of saying, "You're a naughty girl! Why can't you be good?" Say, "Pushing Nina isn't nice. It can hurt. Please don't push."

2.  Pay attention.
Carve out time to give your kindergartner your undivided attention — this can do wonders for a child's self-worth because it sends the message that you think she's important and valuable. And it doesn't have to take a lot of time. Stop flicking through the mail if she's trying to talk with you or turning off the TV long enough to answer a question. Make eye contact so it's clear that you're really listening to what she's saying. When you're strapped for time, you can let your child know without ignoring her needs. Say, "Tell me all about what you did at school, and then when you're finished I'll need to make our dinner."

3.  Teach limits.
Establish a few reasonable rules for your kindergartner and, when appropriate, ask for her input when you make or update the rules. For instance, if you tell your child she has to wear her helmet when she rides her bike in the driveway; don't let her go without it at a friend's house. Knowing that certain family rules are set in stone will help her feel more secure. It may take constant repetition on your part, but she'll start to live by your expectations soon enough. Just be clear and consistent and show her that you trust her and expect her to do the right thing.

4.  Support healthy risks.
Encourage your child to explore something unknown, such as trying a different food, finding a best pal, or riding a bike. Though there's always the possibility of failure, without risk there's little opportunity for success. So let your child safely experiment, and resist the urge to intervene. For instance, try not to "rescue" her if she's showing mild frustration over trying to shoot her basketball into her kid-sized hoop. Even jumping in to say, "I'll help you" can foster dependence and diminish your child's confidence. You'll build her self-esteem by balancing your need to protect her with her need to tackle new tasks.


5.  Let mistakes happen.
The flip side, of course, of having choices and taking risks is that sometimes your child is bound to make mistakes. These are valuable lessons for your child's confidence. So if your child breaks a beloved toy through rough handling, help her fix it and encourage her to think about what she might do differently next time. That way her self-esteem won't sag and she'll understand that it's okay to make mistakes sometimes. When you goof up yourself, admit it, says Daniel Meier, assistant professor of elementary education at San Francisco State University. Acknowledging and recovering from your mistakes sends a powerful message to your child — it makes it easier for your child to accept her own struggles.

6.  Celebrate the positive.
Everyone responds well to encouragement, so make an effort to acknowledge the good things your child does every day within her earshot. For instance, tell her dad, "Julia helped cook dinner." She'll get to bask in the glow of your praise and her dad's heartening response. And be specific. Instead of saying "Good job," say, "Thank you for waiting so patiently in line at the grocery store." This will enhance her sense of accomplishment and self-worth and let her know exactly what she did right.

7.  Listen well.
If your child needs to talk, stop and listen to what she has to say. She needs to know that her thoughts, feelings, desires, and opinions matter. Help her get comfortable with her emotions by labeling them. Say, "I know you're sad because we have to go home now." By accepting her emotions without judgment you validate her feelings and show that you value what she has to say. If you share your own feelings ("I'm excited about going to the zoo"), she'll gain confidence in expressing her own.

8.  Resist comparisons.
Comments such as "Why can't you be more like your sister?" or "Why can't you be nice like Makayla?" will just remind your child of her difficulties in a way that fosters shame, envy, and competition. Even positive comparisons such as "You're the best player" are potentially damaging because a child can find it hard to live up to this image. If you let your child know you appreciate her for the unique individual she is, she'll be more likely to value herself too.

9.  Offer empathy.
If your child begins to compare herself unfavorably to her siblings or peers ("Why can't I read as well as Maia?") show her empathy and then emphasize one of her strengths. For instance, say, "You're right, Maia does read well. And you're a great singer." This approach can help your child learn that we all have strengths and weaknesses, and that she doesn't have to be perfect to feel good about herself.

10.  Provide encouragement.
Every child needs the kind of support from loved ones that signals, "I believe in you. I see your effort. Keep going!" Encouragement means acknowledging progress — not just rewarding achievement. So if your kindergartner is struggling to sound out words, say: "You're trying very hard and you almost have it!" instead of "Not like that. Let me show you."

There's a difference between praise and encouragement. One rewards the task while the other rewards the person. ("You did it!" rather than "I'm proud of you!") Praise can make a child feel that she's only "good" if she does something perfectly. Encouragement, on the other hand, acknowledges the effort. "Tell me about your drawing. I see that you like purple" is more helpful than saying, "That's the most beautiful picture I've ever seen." Too much praise can sap self-esteem because it can create pressure to perform and set up a continual need for approval from others. So dole out the praise judiciously and offer encouragement liberally; it will help your child grow up to feel good about herself.